Dating seeing each other once a week
Does he work long hours and/or at a physical/outdoor job? I'd say at five weeks, there should be some reciprocity.If so, he's going to be very tired during the week for sure. I'd say once a week dates is a good start for 5 weeks. If after 3 months, he's not upping things, you'll have to have a talk with him. Just say you like him, you enjoy his company and then tell him what you are hoping for for yourself with someone at some point. If you like getting texts and being asked out because it shows he cares, then he probably feels the same way about you.I think its a good indication of how much he likes me and how proactive he is (I don't want a man who is too lazy to plan a date). He's planned all our dates except the one I asked him out on. If he's wishy-washy, or says something like I like you and am happy with the way things are, then you probably want to say that it sounds like you are not on the same page and that it's time to move on.But you're right I think maybe I need to give him a bit more encouragement b/c I did make a comment one night saying "I think you might be too nice for me", lol. I was thinking of having a talk with him and saying that I'm not sure what he's looking for but I am looking to eventually date and be in a relationship with someone, that I want to see him more often and that I like getting texts etc..I'm not sure how to phrase this without sounding completely needy. Telling him what you are looking for in your dating experience does not sound needy (unless he has some other kind of hang ups). Start out telling him what you like/appreciate about him. That's a good question, but I think first and foremost, you wanting/needing to be with a man who is more proactive is legitimate—it's not being "needy." That's what dating's all about, right?It could totally be this guy, by the way, but at this point he's just unaware because you haven't said anything.I think sometimes we just assume that someone will know how we want to be communicated with, but that's not always true.You say, "I love to text or talk everyday" and see what he says. 3 months to me seems like a long time to still be sussing someone out...If he's like, "I hate texting, I don't want to do it all the time," then maybe you two aren't so compatible. By 3 months I think we should already know if we are sort of semi serious or not no?
You say you want to be with someone who is committed, who will see you more than once a week, and is in touch more often. And I also want to make sure that I like him more before we become serious and I make an investment, which I feel I can only come to know if we see each other more frequently.
We don't text constantly and usually just text maybe 2 days a week.
I'm not sure how I feel about him and have been pretty lukewarm about him.
If so, he's going to be very tired during the week for sure. I'd say once a week dates is a good start for 5 weeks. If after 3 months, he's not upping things, you'll have to have a talk with him. Just say you like him, you enjoy his company and then tell him what you are hoping for for yourself with someone at some point. I understand what you are saying, but I suppose my thoughts about dating are a little more traditional.
I let the man lead in the beginning and see how much effort he puts into dating me.