And going home alone is not the worst thing that could be happening to me, some nights.
And thinking about marriage as a solution to a woman's life leaves no room for all the ways in which your life still needs to be satisfied even if you do get married.
This is a conversation between two straight, white women, so there’s tons not covered here, but hopefully it will help you sort through how you think about your own love life in your 30s.
Zan: What was the most recent date you went on, and how did it come about?
chronicles the year following Mac Nicol’s 40th birthday, in which she tries to get her increasingly dementia-addled mother into a nursing home, help out her recently separated sister, and also sort out how she feels about having hit that big, round number without having obtained—gasp! Which means that maybe it’s not so crazy for me to turn some of the energy people expect me to spend on hunting for a partner toward making that life something I’m excited to keep living in, whether it ever includes a husband or not.
I’m not going to just like, perish off the face of the earth, right?